Eye to Eye Is BIG!

Did you know that looking at someone while they are speaking and truly "listening" to them is one of the highest forms of respect?

Have you ever been talking with someone and they keep looking around the room as if they are waiting for someone to walk in? Or, they keep looking at their cell phone waiting for a phone call or text while you are talking to them about something important to you? I don't get it!

Are they waiting on someone or something "better" to come along? I see it all the time in restaurants, meetings and coffee houses - everywhere!


Making sure that you stay focused and engaged in a conversation is critical to a healthy and respectful relationship. The old "uh huh" just doesn't work and certainly doesn't lend itself to a positive situation.

I've given many speeches at different functions and see people in the audience on their phones or looking out the window. If you are not interested, then leave the room and come back when you are ready to listen.

If you didn't want to be where you are or with the person you are with; then why are you?

While talking to a friend, spouse, co-worker, supervisor, interviewer or ANYONE,

1) put your cell phone away so can't look at it,
2) stop what you are thinking about at the moment,
3) look them in the eye and listen; that's it!
I's not easy to do; it's a 'good' habit to establish.

You'll be amazed what you'll learn by taking the time and effort to be courteous!

What else can you do? 

ASK QUESTIONS so they know you are listening.


There is something magical about the eyes and ears working together to make YOU see and hear what is going on!

Remember, pay attention and listen actively; you'll keep a friend or spouse happy to have you around!!!


"Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have
preferred to talk." Doug Larson

 

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